My daughter and her husband are moving away and taking my grandchildren with them! I am not happy. They are moving several states away and I know what that means. Our visits will be few. I already have family including a little granddaughter that live on the other side of the country and sometimes I ache with a longing to see her and hug her and be with her. And now there will be even more to miss.

It’s especially difficult for me, because these three little grandchildren have been a special comfort and joy to me in my grief. When I suddenly lost my husband, the little girls had a special tenderness towards me. They knew I hurt. Their hugs and kisses and declarations of “I love you, Grandma” have been a soothing balm to my hurting heart. And then God increased my joy by blessing this family with a baby boy. This tiny grandson delights me with his smiles. I consider him a special gift from God to me.

I knew for some time that there was a strong possibility they would eventually be moving. But I lived in denial and had a mistaken hope that it would not happen. Apparently, they were in this area for just a season and for a purpose. John and Heidi moved here just a few years before my husband Paul passed away and I am so grateful that they were here for that time and for the support they have been to me. But being here has not been easy for them as things did not go as they expected. They faced several setbacks and struggles and were living in a state of uncertainty. Thus an eventual move was planned.

But when the setbacks and the uncertainty were resolved, the probable move became a reality. I am not ready for them to go! So I have cried. I cried and asked myself, “How am I going to handle another loss?!” And I actually got an answer! I mentally slapped myself. IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT ME! Their life does not and should not revolve around me. I realized I was going to have to let them go. Not that I could stop it from happening, but I need to let them go emotionally and gracefully. That means no pouting, no guilt trips, and no complaining! Their move is a good thing for them and I need to recognize that. They are not moving away; they are moving forward.

As in most situations, I find help for my problem in Scripture. Therefore, as I strive to let go, I think on these verses:

Let each of you look out not only for your own interests, but also for the interests of others. –Philippians 2:4

I have learned in whatever state I am to be content… I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. –Philippians 4:11, 13

So I am letting go! But am I liking it? Selfishly, not really. But as a mother, I am. (Perhaps it would be more accurate to say, I am trying.) They are doing what is right and best for them, and for that I am glad.

One more verse: Rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep. –Romans 12:15. So as I rejoice with them, maybe you can weep just a little with me. Because when they go, I am still going to cry.

This reminder hangs on my bedroom door:

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